Wednesday, July 20, 2005

Q & A

Got this questions to ponder on, off of Aish.com:
How long have you known him? How well do you know him?
Where did he grow up?
Is he dating for the purpose of marriage?
How does he like to have fun / spend vacations / do in his spare time?
What type of person is he looking for?
What does he look like?
What are his friends like?
Where is he heading in terms of spiritual growth and Jewish observance?
What is his outlook on life?
What does he want to do with his life - career, education, involvement in the community?
What kind of lifestyle would he like to have?
Does he smoke? Drink? How much?
Where did he receive his education?
Describe his personality.
What frustrates him and how does he handle frustration? How patient is he?
How does he react when a friend or family member has a problem?
Have you ever seen him deal with an emergency or crisis? How did he react?
What importance does he place on dressing fashionably? On grooming?
Did he face any challenges when he was growing up - illness, family problems, educational issues? And how did he deal with them?
Do you think he has the emotional stability to be a good marriage partner?
Do you have any reservations about recommending him as a potential marriage partner?
What is he looking for in a future spouse?
What qualities can he bring to a marriage?
Why do you think he would be a good match for me?
What is his family like?
How do the parents relate to each other? (You can ask this even if they are divorced.)
What kind of relationship does he have with his parents?
What are his siblings like?
What kind of relationship do his siblings have with their parents? With each other?
What kind of connection do his parents have with their community? Who is their rabbi? What synagogue do they attend?
What kind of education and careers do the parents have? What is their cultural background? Their worldview?

3 comments:

Assorted Babble by Suzie said...

Sweetie, I wish there were an Answer Book for you.... before investing time in the wrong person or place.
That is why it is called life, I think, you learn those answers as you step forward with each and every day.
Also wish... I had all the right answers for you beforehand, but I really do not. Love, your Mom

Charlie Mc said...

Suzie, 100% right....you can't have a "test" for someone because nobody will ever meet even half of that criteria...

JUST A MOM said...

WOW!! I AM COPYING THIS FOR ALL MY GIRLS THANKS. That is good girl, give your mom a hug for me. And one for you too.